Thursday, 30 May 2013

Ignore the negative thoughts and find thus the key tool to recovery from depression

All of you might have definitely come across same negative thoughts. They usually concern areas of our lives such as relationships, work or health. In my case the examples of such thoughts would look as follows:

"You will never be healthy again."
"Other people think badly about you."
"Your appearance today is terrible again, you are too fat and have ugly cloths on you, others will always look better."
"There is still something else to do, you can't really afford to take proper lunch break."
"It will be the disaster. The first time I will be doing it and I will definitely fail in it. No way."

Don't argue and discuss with the thoughts, but rather ignore them. Although I didn't follow this simple advice many times (I was then disappointed that I didn't so), I can tell you that it is essential thing which every specialist would recommend you. Once we start arguing with our mind that the thoughts are wrong, it is a game we can't win. Moreover, once we start arguing with negative thoughts, they make significantly the functionality of our body worse in every way, in other words they cause depression and anxiety. Yeh, it is dangerous vicious circle.

The tricky thing about them is that we are usually completely accustomed believe them and we might have never thought that they might tell lies to us. Therefore, you won't naturally learn to master negative thoughts within one day. Never mind. Every step further counts at the beginning. It is really worth spending some time.

One of my favourite author says: "The thought comes, and it will go. Don't bother about it".

Based on my own experience I can say that one often tends to give in to negative thoughts in other to stay (unconsciously!) in a role of victim.... However. building on the role of the victim is the opposite of the responsible approach to life.

Hopefully there is a way out. Here are some basic tools on your escape from the influence of negative thinking.
  • crucial rule: don't argue with the thoughts about the rightness - you will lose. The only safe way is to ignore them 
  • remember the fact that your thoughts may not reflect the reality at all 
  • every time you feel that negative thoughts are taking strong control of your mind try to start doing something else - more relaxing (e.g. meditation) or what you like better
  • read regularly a book of positive quotes. So that you can start looking forward to your everyday commuting to work when you will feed your mind with positive fuel 
  • stop assigning automatically bad scenarios to bad luck - If your girlfriend doesn't type, it doesn't necessarily mean she isn't interested in you any more.:) Better way is to live in uncertainty 
  • schedule your free time in advance and thus prevent chaos often caused by the negative thoughts 
  • don't blame yourself for negative thoughts. After all they have usually such a strenght as a result of your mental problems. As you get gradually recovered they start vanishing 
  • get among other people 
 Nevertheless there are much more items which could have been on the list and this blog will elaborate on them gradually in the future. So stay tuned and share this article. Thanks.  

Saturday, 18 May 2013

Get among other people if you want beat the depression

Being among other people brings benefits to you in many ways. First of all, getting involved in some social interactions naturally prevents you focusing on your own (negative) thoughts. Another crucial thing which emerges naturally while being among others is the boost of your self-esteem. It is simply given that your self-esteem rises better while being among others than being alone (practically no matter what you do).

Depression is often related to the lack of some social skills (read post) and is largely taught that the best way in improving one's social skills is the practising and practising. In fact exposure (in general, not only in social skills) is effective means in preventing all kinds of depression, anxiety and neurosis.

The thing is that suffering from the depression causes inevitably often feeling of inferiority and as a result of it we might feel the fear from going among the people and rather stay at home. You will definitely hear from your thoughts that staying at home alone (even for sake of some important duty) is at the particular moment better choice then joining your friends, mates, co-workers etc., but try not to obey your inner voice for once and you might be pleasantly surprised.

I personally experienced all of what I have described above. Often I went to a pub to join my fellows even though I would have liked to stay at home much rather. Very surprisingly for me what followed then was the huge reveal from depression and I almost never regretted my decision.

Do you have any tips regarding this topic? Be so nice and add them beneath the article to the comments.

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Flowers make my soul always a bit happier. Taken in our garden

Thursday, 16 May 2013

Identify what depression wants to tell you

You might have already heard it thousand times but without understanding what message the depression wants to tell you, you can be sure that you will fight with it with difficulties. Remember that taking the medicine can be useful at the early stage of the disease but in the long-term it is not the ultimate solution.

It is largely believes that the depression is the reaction of the soul to something that is beyond its strength to cope with. It can be related to all spheres of life but most often it concerns work and relationship. It follows that depression can be understood as the calling out for change.

As already mentioned it may concern your overworking at work or at university, your low assertiveness, your dissatisfaction in relationships etc.. It is common that tricky problem of your life is often repeated in your dreams, especially if you suffer from vivid dreams or nightmares.

The truth is that today's society puts large emphasis on the performance and other things more than it is good for one's health. As a result of it the people might spend 16 hours per day at work and they don't even realize that something is going wrong with them. Yeah, the get through the disease the message: "Slow down, I can't stand it any more."

So don't be frustrated, if you follow this guideline and listen to your suffering and don't rely purely on the medicaments, you will take very important step on the way to return to normal life.

Wednesday, 15 May 2013

Do what you like

Whether you fight with such type of depression that you can not regularly work or you are just in a melancholic mood you can improve you daily psychical life quite easily by following some guidelines.

Do what you like 

It is not always easy if you have learned to devote all your free time only to your work, duties, family, friends, etc.. At the beginning it is enough if you find only a couple of minutes spare every day. Try to find out what activities may cause pleasure to you. If you can't find any, try to remember, what ever appealed to you in the past. It can be reading a novel, listening to your favourite music, watching the sunset, starting manufacturing sth. etc.. When you do something already, be ready to overcome the thoughts that you have no right to spend time on such unimportant activity. It is definitely worth because you will be rewarded by natural escape from negative thoughts, bigger self-esteem and among other things rediscovered pleasure to live.